a short story

موضوع: a short story الجمعة مايو 04, 2012 1:32 pm

There was a boy who was always losing his temper. His father gave him a bag full of nails and said to him, “My son, I want you to hammer a nail into our garden fence every time you need to direct your anger against something and you lose your temper.”

So the son started to follow his father’s advice. On the first day he hammered in 37 nails, but getting the nails into the fence was not easy, so he started trying to control himself when he got angry. As the days went by, he was hammering in less nails, and within weeks he was able to control himself and was able to refrain from getting angry and from hammering nails. He came to his father and told him what he had achieved. His father was happy with his efforts and said to hi “But now, my son, you have to take out a nail for every day that you do not get angry.”

The son started to take out the nails for each day that he did not get angry, until there were no nails left in the fence.

He came to his father and told him what he had achieved. His father took him to the fence and said, “My son, you have done well, but look at these holes in the fence. This fence will never be the same again.” Then he adde “When you say things in a state of anger, they leave marks like these holes on the hearts of others. You can stab a person and withdraw the knife but it doesn’t matter how many times you say ‘I’m sorry,’ because the wound will remain.

موضوع: رد: a short story الجمعة مايو 04, 2012 1:35 pm

ترجمةالقصة باللغةالعربية

كان هناك ولد عصبي وكان يفقد صوابه بشكل مستمر فأحضر له والده كيساً مملوءاً بالمسامير وقال له :

يا بني أريدك أن تدق مسماراً في سياج حديقتنا الخشبي كلما اجتاحتك موجة غضب وفقدت أعصابك

وهكذا بدأ الولد بتنفيذ نصيحة والده ....

فدق في اليوم الأول 37 مسماراً ، ولكن إدخال المسمار في السياج لم يكن سهلاً .

فبدأ يحاول تمالك نفسه عند الغضب ، وبعدها وبعد مرور أيام كان يدق مسامير أقل ، وفي أسابيع تمكن من ضبط نفسه ، وتوقف عن الغضب وعن دق المسامير ، فجاء والده وأخبره بإنجازه ففرح الأب بهذا التحول ، وقال له : ولكن عليك الآن يا بني استخراج مسمار لكل يوم يمر عليك لم تغضب فيه .

وبدأ الولد من جديد بخلع المسامير في اليوم الذي لا يغضب فيه حتى انتهى من المسامير في السياج .

فجاء إلى والده وأخبره بإنجازه مرة أخرى ، فأخذه والده إلى السياج وقال له : يا بني أحسنت صنعاً ، ولكن انظر الآن إلى تلك الثقوب في السياج ، هذا السياج لن يكون كما كان أبداً ، وأضاف :

عندما تقول أشياء في حالة الغضب فإنها تترك آثاراً مثل هذه الثقوب في نفوس الآخرين .

تستطيع أن تطعن الإنسان وتُخرج السكين ولكن لا يهم كم مرة تقول : أنا آسف لأن الجرح سيظل هناك .

موضوع: رد: a short story الجمعة مايو 04, 2012 1:57 pm

Anger is an emotion God gave me and you to protect ourselves. Anger is for our self preservation. I wasn't designed to hold it in and neither were you. In fact God tells me to be angry and of course not to sin as a result of it. As I reflect back... a lot of my ungodly choices were based on the fact that I was hurt and angry.

I use to ignore my anger and blow it off. I would do this by working it out in my own mind. Also my attitude at the time was... "yea right you can't hurt me." This approach worked for a while but then in time I started to become aggressive and withdrawn. So I needed to try a different approach.

Solution

I had to learn how to take responsibility for my anger. I do this by managing it and not controlling it. I need to manage it instead of believing that people need to change. I'm the one who needs to change. I stopped believing that people or events caused my anger and I stop thinking that my anger was something that happened to me. This only makes me feel powerless and out of control which make me angry.

Self Awareness

Ask Yourself

]

موضوع: رد: a short story الجمعة مايو 04, 2012 2:42 pm

10x for rreply

موضوع: رد: a short story الأحد مايو 06, 2012 3:29 pm

Story useful Thank you
warde